Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Our sad, sad news


Some of you already know this, but we have had some horrible, terrible, unimaginably painful news regarding my daughter's husband. Desiree' and Russell have lived together has husband and wife for quite some time now and had planned a big wedding celebration for April 19, 2009. Although they were already common law married in the eyes of the law, Russell wanted Des to have her fairytale wedding day - the big dress, the crowd, the dancing and all the trimmings. Sadly, on Sunday, April 5th, two weeks to the day before they were to have their big moment, Russell was killed in car accident in east Texas. In two days, my daughter will bury the man she had planned to spend the rest of her life with. Desiree' has proven herself to be way tougher than anyone I've ever known - I don't know how she's getting up every day and facing life but she is. She's planned Russell's funeral with every bit as much love and attention as she spent planning their wedding. Randey and I are watching her heart break right before our very eyes and all we can do is marvel at the love she carries for Russell and how determined she is to take care of him now.
Please pray for my daughter and her beloved Russell. I know she's going to need all the warmth and love and prayers that she can get as she moves forward.

58 comments:

  1. Desree and Russell ane in my prayers as well you and Randey.sorry got the loss.

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  2. You are all in my prayers. I'm so very sorry to read this news. May you feel comforted right in the middle of this great sorrow. My heart goes out to you all.

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  3. Kari

    Your family has been in my thoughts so much these last few days since I learned of Russell's death. What a terrible loss. So tragic!

    Hugs sweet friend!
    Kat

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  4. Mike sent me...I offer my prayers for your daughter...and your family...and his family.

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  5. Kari,

    I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. I came over from Mike's. My heart breaks for your family, especially your daughter. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

    Blessings,
    Mary

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  6. Kari, I'm so sorry to read this news. I will keep your daughter in my prayers and thoughts.

    Mary

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  7. Kari, there are no words that can really comfort the pain your daughter and family are feeling! I am so very sorry for your precious loss!! My prayers go out to you all.

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  8. You have all been, and continue to be, in my thoughts and prayers.

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  9. I'm so sorry about this horrible loss. All of you are in my prayers.

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  10. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  11. Kari,

    You all have been in my thoughts and prayers these last few days and will continue to be as you go through this hard time. I am so sorry for your loss and will be praying for all of you.

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  12. I am so sorry for your family's loss. my heart goes out to your daughter as my own daughter lost the love of her life to a motorcycle accident. It's heartbreaking watching your child go through this. hugs and prayers to ya'll from Virginia.

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  13. Oh Kari! My prayers are with all of you. I know I am far away, but, please let me know if I can do anything. I will be thinking of you and your family.

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  14. A loss like this is too hard to imagine. I am as proud of your daughter as I would be of my own. You and your daughter are both in my prayers.

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  15. I'm so sorry to hear this news. I will be thinking of your daughter along with the rest of your family.
    Hugs,
    Tina

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  16. My heart is breaking for your family's loss. I will be praying for your daughter.

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  17. I've thought of Desiree and all of you so often, since learning about Russell. You all remain in my thoughts and prayers!

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  18. I came over from Mike Grolch's blog. He you'd had some tragic news in your family. I'm so sorry for your daughter's loss, it must be terrilbe for you to have to watch her heart breaking.


    May I offer you all my heartfelt condolences and my prayers. I will also send Reiki to Russell to help him on his journey home and to your daughter to help ease her pain. x

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  19. Oh my how sad I will --my heart and prayers are both w/ you

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  20. Kari, ever since I got your email I have had all of you in my thoughts and heart and paryers. I can only imagne the pain your daughter is on and my heart breaks for her. May God be with her, with all of the family, and help bring you comfort. We all care so much...we alllove you so much.

    Love,
    Sue

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  21. I am so very, very sorry. May God's comfort be with your family --- especially with your daughter. How very sad. . .

    LaTeaDah

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  22. How devastating...I'm so sorry Kari; please pass on my condolences.

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  23. I am so terribly sorry for the loss of Desiree's love. Our friends just lost their son, so I know in some way the horrible pain you are all going through. At this Easter time, know that there is the promise of life after all the pain of this earth. May the angels wrap their arms around Desiree' and Russell's family in the days and months ahead.

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  24. Oh Kari-There are no words. I am so sorry. And my heart hurts for your family. Please know that Desiree and all of your family are in my prayers. May God give you comfort and strength.

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  25. Kari,
    My prayers are with Desiree' and all of yours and Russell's family! May you feel God's comforting arms around you as the prayers are being lifted up on your behalf. Blessings
    Sue

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  26. I am so very sorry for your deep loss. My prayers to your family during this most challenging time. Especially for strength and wisdom for Desiree.

    Blessings,
    Carrie

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  27. I've come over from Vee's -- my very deepest condolences for your sad loss. I will keep your family in my prayers.

    Hugs, Pat

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  28. Kari,
    I am so sorry to hear of this tragedy for your family! My prayers go out to you all for strength to endure the days ahead.

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  29. I am so shocked and saddened about your loss. This is such a sad, sad day for your family.
    Words just aren't enough.
    I will lift each of you up in prayer.

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  30. Kari...
    I will hold Desiree & Russell in my prayers and I hope you find comfort in knowing just how many friends are thinking of you & your family now.

    With love,
    Cassie

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  31. Kari,
    I'm so sorry to read this...I have such a heavy heart for your family. Your sweet daughter has such strength....please know I'm thinking of her and your family...you've been on my mind all day since I first read this.....
    Robin

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  32. Oh! Kari...I've been away so long...and I was shocked to hear this tragic news. My heart breaks for Desiree, Russell's entire family, friends and of course you and your sweet family. I will certainly be thinking & praying for each of you during this time.

    Blessings and may GOD wrap you all in his strong embrace, to carry you through the grief and disbelief at this time...I know words can't describe all the feelings you are going through...just know I'll be here if you need me.

    Teresa

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  33. Be still and know that I am God.

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  34. These are the times we question- but it's not up to us. all we can do is keep one another strong. Seems to me your family is going through a lot at present, AuntSandi ill and others..
    It almost seems too much, but that is what gives us our character, and we probably will be able to help someone down the road someday. I ache for all of you and pray that love comes your daughters'way again.I know God will send her peace and strength through all of this..

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  35. oh Kari,
    I am SO sorry. I will be praying and thinking of you all.

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  36. I am SO Sorry Kari...am praying for your daughter...hughugs

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  37. You are in my prayers..What a horrible story and sad story..

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  38. I am so sorry to hear of your loss and the pain your daughter and family are going through. I will pray for you as the Lord leads.
    Linda

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  39. I'm so sorry for your loss. thinking of you all.

    Sarah x

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  40. Kari
    We are all so sorry for your daughters loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with her and your family Mary

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  41. I'm new to your blog. I am sooooo sorry for this great loss. They are such a beautiful couple. I recently lost my hubby, unexpectedly, so I do know the pain of losing your soul mate. Just be there for your daughter as she walks through this. It won't be easy, but there will come a day when the pain of the hole left in her soul will begin to mend just a little. ♥

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  42. Kari

    I miss you girlfriend! You're all still in my prayers. Your Aunt Sandi too. I'm getting worried about her. Any news you can share?

    I hope your sweet Desiree' and Russel's daughter are doing okay.

    Hurry back. You are missed.

    Hugs sweet friend!
    Kat

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  43. I'm so sorry! Will keep all of you in my prayers.

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  44. Hi Kari,
    Just checking in on you and seeing how you all are doing. You all have been in my prayers along with your Aunt Sandi. Take care and we miss you.

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  45. I miss you Kari...I just wanted to come by and tell you I have had you all in my thoughts. You remain in our prayers and heart...
    Sending love...
    Sue

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  46. I came across your blog this evening while surfing the NET. I am so sorry for your family's lost. I hope your daughter is doing OK during these painful times. She will be in my prayers. Sharon

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  47. Oh my, how terribly sad..... my thoughts go out to you all..

    x

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  48. Keeping you & your family in our thoughts. Hope evryone is well...take care of each other..

    Cassie

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  49. Just thinking of you this morning...

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  50. My heart is with your daughter and you. I know how it feels to lose loved ones.
    love always, nita

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  51. I read your blog often but have never posted before.

    I am so sorry for your family's loss, I hope you are able to find some comfort in the happy memories you have.

    Our loved ones never truly leave us; they live on in our hearts forever.

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  52. When a loved one becomes a memory..that memory becomes a treasure. So sorry for you and your daughter.

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  53. This was so heartbreaking for us to hear...our love and prayers go out to you all, but especially to Des...her strength amazes me...
    love
    Aunt Sandi

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  54. Oh Kari..that seems way too much for such a young lady to have to deal with. I can barely look that idea in the eyes with my husbands disease...and I am in my 40's. I just cannot imagine dealing with it at her age. I know you are proud of her.

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  55. It just makes me sick to hear this. Please let her know she's in my prayers.

    Hugs,
    Liz

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  56. Just stopping by to say I miss you. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  57. Kari, I knew from what you had said that this year had been hard for your family. I had been out of touch with you during this time (I am so sorry - I feel a certain amount of shame realizing that as you were hurting I wasn't here for you). I was taking some time today to read through your archives and try to get caught up a bit. There's no way I can read it all but I just wanted you to know that I was here, looking to see what God has brought you through.

    I am so sorry for your loss of Russell and I pray that Desiree' is coping. I imagine she is still struggling but I am thankful she has her family to offer support.

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