tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post4213043522231878676..comments2024-01-27T05:12:57.165-05:00Comments on Just Livin' Large: I need advice...or something.Kari (GrannySkywalker)http://www.blogger.com/profile/17727660918541258744noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-24122541228774867662009-06-01T18:26:39.196-04:002009-06-01T18:26:39.196-04:00Kari, You've suffered a terrible trauma and you ar...Kari, You've suffered a terrible trauma and you are a Mom who loves her kids, I'm not sure there is a cure other than numbing yourself or time. I'm still so very sorry and I keep checking back to see how you're doing. God bless you.imbeingheldhostagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771374087307254969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-21977068552807345992009-06-01T13:01:38.093-04:002009-06-01T13:01:38.093-04:00I will also pray for you and your family, Kari. I...I will also pray for you and your family, Kari. It's only through prayerful, loving family and friends, since my grandson was killed in September, that I've managed to hold on. I had to start thinking of how blessed we are to have had him in our lives for 17 years. I try to take one moment at the time. I worry ALL the time about my daughter, though, just as you do about yours. God bless.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02865722713732049339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-89411929495793186782009-05-27T15:43:04.626-04:002009-05-27T15:43:04.626-04:00I know this feeling Kari. My Mom and brother both ...I know this feeling Kari. My Mom and brother both died suddenly late at nite of heart attacks and anytime the phone rings late at nite I can't help but think it's something horrible on the other end of the phone. Wish I had some answers for you to ease your mind but I will pray for you. Take care.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03187046701009700323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-12433338945387793422009-05-26T11:50:41.357-04:002009-05-26T11:50:41.357-04:00I'm not a therapist, but I have an idea. Short of...I'm not a therapist, but I have an idea. Short of allowing a lot of time to allow the feeling to subside, you could try to accelerate it. This idea stems from when my father passed. I had to call people that I never call or rarely call. So if I call them to see how they're doing, they get worried that I am bearing bad news again.<br />So, have your kids call you multiple times a day - to the brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05419094132650347316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-84430530197100772302009-05-26T10:33:28.883-04:002009-05-26T10:33:28.883-04:00I guess I will just agree with what everyone else ...I guess I will just agree with what everyone else says...to acknowledge your fears (it's perfectly ok to feel that way), and then to place it in God's hands. I pray daily for Him to take the worry I have for my children or finances or whatever situation it happens to be...give it up so that He is holding on to it with you.<br /><br />I also love the idea of trying to find a support group. PerhapsCheryl Wrayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01437963733817953990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-54232912072937170672009-05-25T01:42:15.672-04:002009-05-25T01:42:15.672-04:00I really understand your feelings, after Izzy's ac...I really understand your feelings, after Izzy's accident I was terrified. It was like the safety net had been taken away from my life and all at once I saw all the possible bad things that "could" happen. I think before Izzy's near drowning I thought bad things only happened to other people, never to me or my family. <br />I had to let go of the fear and put all my faith in God. I had to anniehttp://mylifeasannie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-71431011629227709272009-05-24T21:14:49.618-04:002009-05-24T21:14:49.618-04:00I can so relate! The night I heard the ambulance ...I can so relate! The night I heard the ambulance siren when my dad had a fatal heart attack, the siren when my son had a head-on collision, but had only a broken arm just a year and a half after breaking his neck in two places on an all-terrain vehicle - (Both accidents happened just up the country road from our house)--I don't do too well with sirens since then--When I hear one, I freeze up Stickhorsecowgirlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04167094045033324094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-72086552585326857022009-05-22T23:42:46.609-04:002009-05-22T23:42:46.609-04:00Hi Kari,
I'm so glad you are taking baby steps...Hi Kari,<br />I'm so glad you are taking baby steps and coming back here to blog..I even noticed a "bit" of your humor shining through! I'm so sorry for what you've been thru......I can't say I have any answers.........other than it's probably totally normal to have these feelings...it's part of the healing process I'm sure....it's when the panic feelingRobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06662950088053804165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-14170994291427590202009-05-22T14:27:22.916-04:002009-05-22T14:27:22.916-04:00Oh sweet girl, I can so feel your pain right throu...Oh sweet girl, I can so feel your pain right through this computer.<br /><br />I will offer this advice... when the phone begins to ring, close your eyes, say a quick prayer something like this: Lord, whatever you are about to hand me, I can deal with it because I know you love and care for me. Then answer the phone in full confidence that you are in God's loving embrace.<br /><br />Please Terri Steffeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02544793349029524184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-55028531408235679952009-05-22T12:41:50.877-04:002009-05-22T12:41:50.877-04:00Kari,
My advice is from the heart. I know this to...Kari, <br />My advice is from the heart. I know this to be true myself, and from my dear friend who lost her most-beloved daughter in a car accident- SHe is a strnghth to all around her. My advice is faith, a simple word, that means so much. Faith that God lives and loves us, Faith that He WILL comfort us , Faith that he knows our pain and the burden of it,---- and that he honestly and truly marcia@joyismygoalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05325733307762033753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-23862426689822455462009-05-22T12:32:23.905-04:002009-05-22T12:32:23.905-04:00There's really no advice that anyone can give you ...There's really no advice that anyone can give you to make this feeling go away. I think it's something that will ease with time, but there's always going to be that nagging fear that resides in a mother's heart. I've never suffered that tragedy, and yet I always worry till I hear the voice on the other end...it's must part of being a mother once the chicks move out...I love you, try not to Sandi McBridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033518416111957858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-70005446730193436242009-05-22T09:25:42.214-04:002009-05-22T09:25:42.214-04:00I can't offer any solutions, but I want you to kno...I can't offer any solutions, but I want you to know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-91091996987707139862009-05-22T09:11:46.066-04:002009-05-22T09:11:46.066-04:00I can't even begin to imagine what you have gone t...I can't even begin to imagine what you have gone through and how to deal with these fears. Perhaps you can get in touch with sweet Sally on Wispering Hope and talk things out with her.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05347598432040432610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-84006913723966909082009-05-22T07:27:52.956-04:002009-05-22T07:27:52.956-04:00I hear that you are saying that your head is ratio...I hear that you are saying that your head is rational and you do get that every phonecall won't be bad news, but your heart hasn't yet figured it out. Even though I've received that bad news call I've not responded to it in quite the same way that you have so I am precious little help. I do have a friend who used to worry when family members were away from home imagining all sorts of accidents. Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00618654361869856894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-43051520036039830332009-05-22T06:59:55.270-04:002009-05-22T06:59:55.270-04:00Kari, I'm sorry you are having to go through this....Kari, I'm sorry you are having to go through this.<br /><br />If the phone rings at a certain time of day, like early morning or evening, those thoughts occur to me. So part of that is normal, when it happens. No matter how old the children. <br /><br />Michelle was in an accident when she was 16, she and friends she was with, had minor injuries, but when the phone rang and we got that news of Pathttp://backporchmusings.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026144081530809886.post-45219779334425269142009-05-22T00:44:33.956-04:002009-05-22T00:44:33.956-04:00Hi sweet friend! I've missed you!
I wish I had a...Hi sweet friend! I've missed you!<br /><br />I wish I had an answer for you. I really do. I guess the old saying "time heals all wounds" isn't exactly true, but I think with time things will calm down. I sure hope so. <br /><br />Since this happened in your family and since my daughter is now engaged and we're planning her wedding, I must admit that I've worried something might happen. It'sJustabeachkathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06730467440181411875noreply@blogger.com